People have the habit of judging silent people. Why? Because they are different than them. The sad part is that most of them don’t realize that they need silent people since they are compatible with them. Nature has intended this way. Simply put, these two different types of people are attracted to one another forming good relationships.
In a relationship between talkers and a non-talkers, there is a natural interaction that makes the talkers more balanced by helping them to listen more, while the non-talkers becomes more open and learn to express themselves better. You could say that it seems like a relationship made in heaven but there are more ‘parameters’ that dictate how a relationship is going.
When you begin to talk less your partner will naturally talk more, and vice-versa. So, instead of criticizing your partner all the time for either talking too much or talking too less, do the opposite and see how they react. Becoming silent will attract your partner to fill the gap. This is how opposites attract. Women the habit of talking a lot and to always ask their men too many questions that will often leave them inhibited to express themselves.
No matter how good your questions to ask a guy are, you still need to use silence in your own advantage and let them speak for a change. And don’t pressure your man to speak. If you don’t say anything for a while, there is high chance that he will. So trust the powerful influence of the silence moments, have patience and allow your man to take his time to open up. Not everyone can talk with the same ease as everybody else.
As you can see, silence has a lot of benefits in relationships, but there is indeed a negative type of silence that is clear measurement of the compatibility in a relationship. Compatibility in a couple is a mixture of several traits that are given by the shared level of intelligence, vision in life, values and a few other sexual and subjective ingredients. If the couple is not compatible then that couple will experience lots of moments of silence, feeling uncomfortable and inhibited to express themselves, that even if both of them have no problem talking in other settings.
You need to learn how to develop the skill to feel if the silence you are experiencing is caused by a negative aspect of your relationship or a positive one. This is where it becomes important to be able to understand your emotions. If you feel uncomfortable and angry when the silent moments occur, you are probably experiencing incompatibility in your relationship.
If the silent moments don’t make you feel tensed in a negative way, if you enjoy looking into their eyes without saying anything, if you feel excited and it feels like you are enjoying every moment whether you are talking about something or not, then you are feeling the effects of a positive silence in your relationships.
Cristian blogs for www.peopleships.com. Dating and relationship advice is his area of expertise, providing insightful and yet unconventional ways of looking at things.